GREETINGS DEAR PARENTS,
Congratulations on being parents and hanging on and hanging in there for the long term! Parenting is the most wonderful occupation in the world, it is also one of the most challenging! I have heard people say that having a demanding job, being away from home, and even being in a war sometimes pale in comparison to the challenges of being a parent. Do you agree?.
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We talked about ARGUING in the last newsletter, and gave you one way to stop arguing. Today we will continue with the second avoidance method from Dr. Jones book "Are Your Children Driving You Nuts?" This method is called Deflectors and this is how this great tool works: When a child continues to argue do the following: first, acknowledge what he says, and second, use a deflector. Deflector words are: NEVERTHELESS, REGARDLESS, IN SPITE OF THAT, I UNDERSTAND, HOWEVER, and so on - make up some of your own.
Your children will hate these words you use, but they WORK! (Yes, these principles work for all situations!)
The third method will be discussed in the next newsletter.
DAD'S CORNER:
Anyone can be a father, it takes someone special of be a DAD!
THERE ARE THREE WAYS TO TEACH:
Number one: EXAMPLE
Number two: EXAMPLE, AND,
Number three: EXAMPLE
MOM'S CORNER:
"MAMA AIN'T HAPPY, AIN'T NOBODY HAPPY!"
TEEN CORNER:
TIME:
Children want to be with you! The won't remember all the 'things' you provided for them but they will remember all the times you spent with them and the feelings they had during these times. Some of the things they will remember are baking cookies together; fun at a family night at home playing games, playing hide and seek, and such; going to the park together; fishing trips, camping trips; and just hanging out together!
To a child love is spelled "time"!
Love to all,
Dr. James and Lillie Jones
